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Anonymous asked:

I feel really ugly and uncomfortable in my own skin, do you have any advice on how to feel more confident in public and in life generally. Ps I love you sooooo much :*

Wander Aimlessly Answer:

fullten:

phaedra220:

fullten:

Okay so, this is you

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I wanted to draw out all the bodies I could think of, but that would take forever, so in the place of your body is a violent constantly changing squiggle. 

Which is pretty close. 

Your constantly changing body is the only thing holding you onto this planet. Your body is neither good, nor bad. It just exists.  And It only exists for a very short amount of time before it deteriorates and dies. 

The love I have for myself isn’t because of my body, but because my body is what enables me to exist in the first place. My body is the house of my beliefs, my ideas, who I am.  I decide whether I lean towards good, or bad, not my body or someone else’s ideas of my body. 

I understand that society sells you a way to be. But that is lie. We live in a consumerist culture where low self esteem = big money. There are people in tall towers who falsely look down on you, as they sit in meetings thinking up new ways for you to feel terrible about yourself so they can sell you something to fix a problem that isn’t even there. Your body has never been, nor will it ever be, a problem. That is a false idea. Just because some ideas are widely believed does not make them true, it just shows that most humans don’t like to question the world around them. It’s human for this to get to you, it’s everywhere, all media and society will feed you this flattened, unattainable idea to you of what ‘beautiful’ is. It’s bullshit. Your beauty does not sell jeans. Your beauty cannot be photoshopped to push shampoo. Your beauty is deeper, it means something, it flows in your veins, in your humanity, in your decency. Even if you feel that sting of not belonging, that’s fine, that’s human, but don’t hate yourself, or your body for that.  If you don’t fit the mold, amazing, your body is revolutionary, it is yours to do with as you please. Tattoo it, fill it with good food, throw it out of planes (with a parachute preferably), share it with people who are going to make you and your body feel amazing, keep safe from those who want to abuse it, narcissistically look at it in the mirror, decorate it… enjoy it. You exist, emotions such as feeling awkward, or feeling like you don’t belong are all apart of the human experience, our short tiny blip of existence, don’t waste it hating your body when there is absolutely nothing wrong with your body at all. You’ve been feed false ideals, your body has been, and always will be ideal, enjoy your skin, it holds everything you are, everything you were, and everything you will be. It holds all your potential. Thank it. 

I needed this so bad. Had my second kid three months ago. With getting pregnant before my first son was 6 months old, my body hasn’t recovered. I got stretch marks. Every time I look in the mirror, I don’t feel like myself.
This has helped.

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